Why is it so hard to find a kindred?

I swear to spiderhorse there used to be so many kindreds, moots and blots within reasonable distance from wherever I was. It’s like that fake fact about spiders. I used to be spiders-god-damn-Georg, who lives in a cave and successfully locates 10,000 pubmoots a day.

My options are fewer than the average heathen because of the whole Loki thing (so the Troth goes right out the god damn window unless I’m desperate, and I’m getting there) but even still the number of kindreds you could find with a google search is virtually nihil now.

What the fuck.

There was an amusing discovery along the line, but it needs some background info. Basically, at pagan pride day a few years back I had a kindred leader recommended to me (through someone in The Troth, ironically) based on the fact that his kindred was pointedly Loki-friendly. We talked, I interviewed him on his stances regarding folkism and racism and he seemed less than ideal but tolerable.

I didn’t have a great feeling about this guy or the woman with him (especially her, god she was unsettling) but figured you just have to suck it up and settle for less if you want to get anywhere. Right?

Turns out this dude had plastered his facebook with fylfots.

it is the same damn thing

I was grossed out. I was pissed. He lied to me, pretty blatantly, and literally did something he claimed to have kicked people out of his kindred for. I also wasn’t ready to confront this dude so I decided to profusely apologize to my Jewish friends for the mishap and block the guy instead, vowing never to go near his fucking kindred.

I wasn’t thrilled when I found out they’d signed Declaration 127, and this is a good 90% of why I don’t put stock into kindreds who signed it. (And why I didn’t sign it.) There was clearly no vetting involved.

But I figured I’d check up on them out of morbid curiosity and have discovered that they renamed, are currently without a location and have gotten worseDo you think I don’t know what “cultural marxism” is a dog whistle for?

So at least I was right in my suspicions, even if they came a little late.

So anyway. The search continues.

 

3 thoughts on “Why is it so hard to find a kindred?”

  1. The Troth is getting better. Many of us have worked hard to bring it into a greater harmony with the community they actually serve.

    I know the struggle to find a worthy kindred is hard, but it is worth it. Perhaps others locally feel the same? Network at open or pan pagan events and see if you might form for yourself the hearth you seek. They all began somewhere.

    Like

    1. Good point! I’ve heard there’s debate opening up on whether to remove the no-hailing-Loki rule as well which is heartening to hear as someone who is otherwise totally on board with what the Troth is going for. I’ve had some luck finding some Loki-friendly kindreds in the DelVal area, and am gearing up to go to the local moots now that I have the time.

      Thanks for swinging by!

      Liked by 1 person

  2. I’m not Lokean so I can’t even begin to imagine the struggle you must go through. I’m guilty once upon a time of being briefly “anti-loki” back when I was learning about heathenry in the wrong spaces. I changed. It’s a problem though.

    The problem I keep coming across personally is… finding people who… actually believe the gods are real and actively communicate with us. As someone whose gods have and are making a HUGE impact on my life and circumstances (this is an understatement) the moment I get vibes someone will think I’m likely a “nutcase” I high-tail OUT.

    I choose to be solitary these days honestly. I love my gods very much. I would be lying if I said I loved (modern) heathenry. I despise it and it quite frankly needs to start getting it’s shit together.

    /rant

    Like

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.